I'm really bothered by someone's lack of respect lately......
and really don't know how to handle or approach the situation.....
This is why I haven't blogged lately, because everything that I want to blog would turn into an attack..... and I know from personal experiences......words can be forgiven, but not forgotten.
So until then..... I'm on a break, trying to find my inner strength to look at the situation from their point of view and try to understand why they do the things they do.
It's very difficult to be treated with disrespect.........and it's even more difficult to be a bigger person and walk away, being completely upset and not knowing how to handle the situation.
It comes to a point where it's gone on for so long that you just feel that things are done intentionally and that you are no longer valued as a part of the whole anymore.......
Tuesday, January 17, 2012
Wednesday, January 11, 2012
It all hit....
Last night was determining your strengths and seeing if what you are currently doing is setting yourself up for your dream job.....
Question 1 up for discussion last night- if you could do/be anything in the world and money was of no object, what would you do/be?
Answer- NO BRAINER- Stay at home mom!
However- I did hear an interesting quote from Dave last night that read "Until one is content with who they are, they will never be content with what they have"
Ouch, that really hit me. Think of women, just in general. Are women ever "content" in anything? One of the Beth Moore studies that I did made us stare insecurity in the face and it amazed me how women, by the masses, are completely insecure. To me insecurity and contentment with ones self almost goes hand in hand. Unless you are secure with yourself, your life, I don't know that you will be content. We always want to "look like her" " be like her" and if you don't think that way- then Congratulations for finding your security. But don't tell you me you've never looked in the mirror and thought "I'd wish I had ______ body instead of one that's in the direction of looking like my mothers!" Of course, I LOVE myself. Everyone knows that Brittany's always been about Brittany..... but alot of that has changed since Jaylee and Jentri came into the world. I no longer have to have the latest trend or fad in clothing.... I'd rather spend it all on them instead and just wear what I have!
Contentment is a very very hard thing to find, not only within yourself, but in your finances. Are YOU content with how much you make? Or are you looking for the next big thing? Are you constantly looking at a few months down the road and thinking "if we save x amount- we can buy this or we can buy that or we can do this or we can do that?" If so- then you probably aren't content. I think it's rather normal to be looking forward to something in life, but maybe I need to change that perspective......
Our video ending last night really hit home. A guy in his 30's was working as an executive in his company, and brought $53,000 of school loans to his marriage. He had two kids and a healthy marriage. He finally stared his debt in the face, and realized that he needed to give his sons a better life than just "getting by". So, he went to work, 8-5, got home to eat his supper, play for an hour, change his clothes, and then went out delivering pizzas inorder to get out of debt quicker. At the end, it showed him playing with his two little boys, and he remarked "I'm doing this because I love my family, not because I love working my butt off. I know this isn't forever, I'm just going to have a better life for my kids by doing the extra work now"
So---tears went to flowing. All I could see was Jeremy playing with Jaylee and Jentri and how much he misses out on because of his job. We have said from the beginning "this isn't forever" and hearing it from someone else really hit me last night. We aren't the only crazy people in this world. I love my husband and admire him for being willing to leave us inorder to give us a better life down the road. I've said it once and I'll say it until this lifestyle is over, it's hard, and supper time is the hardest. Those of you that get supper time every night, value every single minute of it. Suppertime is my weakest point in the day.....
Overall-- do what you love and love what you do! Even though it may not be your "dream", you are working for the "dream" and you will, someday, get there. WORK like no one else now, so later you can work like no one else!
Question 1 up for discussion last night- if you could do/be anything in the world and money was of no object, what would you do/be?
Answer- NO BRAINER- Stay at home mom!
However- I did hear an interesting quote from Dave last night that read "Until one is content with who they are, they will never be content with what they have"
Ouch, that really hit me. Think of women, just in general. Are women ever "content" in anything? One of the Beth Moore studies that I did made us stare insecurity in the face and it amazed me how women, by the masses, are completely insecure. To me insecurity and contentment with ones self almost goes hand in hand. Unless you are secure with yourself, your life, I don't know that you will be content. We always want to "look like her" " be like her" and if you don't think that way- then Congratulations for finding your security. But don't tell you me you've never looked in the mirror and thought "I'd wish I had ______ body instead of one that's in the direction of looking like my mothers!" Of course, I LOVE myself. Everyone knows that Brittany's always been about Brittany..... but alot of that has changed since Jaylee and Jentri came into the world. I no longer have to have the latest trend or fad in clothing.... I'd rather spend it all on them instead and just wear what I have!
Contentment is a very very hard thing to find, not only within yourself, but in your finances. Are YOU content with how much you make? Or are you looking for the next big thing? Are you constantly looking at a few months down the road and thinking "if we save x amount- we can buy this or we can buy that or we can do this or we can do that?" If so- then you probably aren't content. I think it's rather normal to be looking forward to something in life, but maybe I need to change that perspective......
Our video ending last night really hit home. A guy in his 30's was working as an executive in his company, and brought $53,000 of school loans to his marriage. He had two kids and a healthy marriage. He finally stared his debt in the face, and realized that he needed to give his sons a better life than just "getting by". So, he went to work, 8-5, got home to eat his supper, play for an hour, change his clothes, and then went out delivering pizzas inorder to get out of debt quicker. At the end, it showed him playing with his two little boys, and he remarked "I'm doing this because I love my family, not because I love working my butt off. I know this isn't forever, I'm just going to have a better life for my kids by doing the extra work now"
So---tears went to flowing. All I could see was Jeremy playing with Jaylee and Jentri and how much he misses out on because of his job. We have said from the beginning "this isn't forever" and hearing it from someone else really hit me last night. We aren't the only crazy people in this world. I love my husband and admire him for being willing to leave us inorder to give us a better life down the road. I've said it once and I'll say it until this lifestyle is over, it's hard, and supper time is the hardest. Those of you that get supper time every night, value every single minute of it. Suppertime is my weakest point in the day.....
Overall-- do what you love and love what you do! Even though it may not be your "dream", you are working for the "dream" and you will, someday, get there. WORK like no one else now, so later you can work like no one else!
Tuesday, January 10, 2012
OCD is in overdrive.....
Some people are really annoying me here lately.....My mother always said "When you think the whole world is against you, maybe it's not the world, maybe it's You"....
I'm taking a twist off of that and saying "Maybe if more than one person is annoying you, maybe it's not them, maybe it's you".....
I don't know if that even makes sense, but maybe it is me. Every little thing about a certain few people are wanting me to just drive myself to straight tequila, skip the margarita mix!
I'm taking a twist off of that and saying "Maybe if more than one person is annoying you, maybe it's not them, maybe it's you".....
I don't know if that even makes sense, but maybe it is me. Every little thing about a certain few people are wanting me to just drive myself to straight tequila, skip the margarita mix!
Monday, January 9, 2012
TOP TEN!
So just like David Letterman gives his top 10 everynight..... here are my top 10 thoughts at the moment... (no pun intended)
10. You are better than no one, so don't snub others.
9. If you did not pay for it yourself, then you have no right to flaunt it and act like you did!
8. Try to remember what it was like when you were in their shoes....
7. Share is fair!
6. Stuff happens- be FLEXIBLE! (See- I'm already sticking to my resolution by cleaning up the language! Go me!)
5. Be happy for others, not just yourself.
4. Life is not a competition.
3. You do need friends to make the world go around!
2. Life is more fun in the fast lane.
1. I'd rather be fat than act like that!
10. You are better than no one, so don't snub others.
9. If you did not pay for it yourself, then you have no right to flaunt it and act like you did!
8. Try to remember what it was like when you were in their shoes....
7. Share is fair!
6. Stuff happens- be FLEXIBLE! (See- I'm already sticking to my resolution by cleaning up the language! Go me!)
5. Be happy for others, not just yourself.
4. Life is not a competition.
3. You do need friends to make the world go around!
2. Life is more fun in the fast lane.
1. I'd rather be fat than act like that!
Wednesday, January 4, 2012
Planning for Retirement, and Saving for College!
Baby Step number 4- Planning for Retirement
Baby Step number 5- Saving for College
Steps number 4 and 5 are to not be started until all of babysteps 1-3 have been complete!
Now you are asking- what are babysteps 1-3.....
1- $1,000 in a Money Market Account for EMERGENCIES
2-All debt paid off, minus house
3- 3-6 months of living expenses saved up
Last night's lesson was quite intriguing! Honestly, I have never truly "cared" about retirement, and those that have talked about it, bore me because I feel that I'm too young to worry about that. HA! That's so not the case. The time is NOW to start! What is being pulled out of my paycheck, I should be matching in a ROTH IRA and having MILLIONS to live off of by the age of 65 or 70. The time to start is, well of course NOW, but until the medical bills and school loans are paid for, we aren't quite there yet!
So, as my New Year's resolution was stated- it's time to kick it into overdrive! Our budget is set for the month, I'm stashing my cash into my envelopes marked in their categories, and HERE WE GO! I've set a goal for me to only give myself $20 of blow money for this month. The past two months it's been around $50. I can do this! I want to do this! I have the WILL to do this!!!!!
Bobby Knight once quoted "Everyone has the will to win, very little have the will to PREPARE to win" . This is my new motto. I'm going to have the will to discipline myself inorder to succeed at this task. I'm going to get every single debt paid off, minus the car and the house in the year of 2012. I CAN DO THIS! No, wait..... WE can do this!!!! Gazelle Intensity Mode is setting in and HERE----WE----GO!!!!
As for the month of December, we were able to pay for Christmas, 100% in CASH. We were able to give to the local Angel Tree Ministry. We also gave a substantial amount to a local family in need that our church was helping. We also gave to another family that I love to give to because we just love them and everything that they do for us throughout the year. We still gave our monthly offering to the church, and we also paid off more debt!
Baby Step number 5- Saving for College
Steps number 4 and 5 are to not be started until all of babysteps 1-3 have been complete!
Now you are asking- what are babysteps 1-3.....
1- $1,000 in a Money Market Account for EMERGENCIES
2-All debt paid off, minus house
3- 3-6 months of living expenses saved up
Last night's lesson was quite intriguing! Honestly, I have never truly "cared" about retirement, and those that have talked about it, bore me because I feel that I'm too young to worry about that. HA! That's so not the case. The time is NOW to start! What is being pulled out of my paycheck, I should be matching in a ROTH IRA and having MILLIONS to live off of by the age of 65 or 70. The time to start is, well of course NOW, but until the medical bills and school loans are paid for, we aren't quite there yet!
So, as my New Year's resolution was stated- it's time to kick it into overdrive! Our budget is set for the month, I'm stashing my cash into my envelopes marked in their categories, and HERE WE GO! I've set a goal for me to only give myself $20 of blow money for this month. The past two months it's been around $50. I can do this! I want to do this! I have the WILL to do this!!!!!
Bobby Knight once quoted "Everyone has the will to win, very little have the will to PREPARE to win" . This is my new motto. I'm going to have the will to discipline myself inorder to succeed at this task. I'm going to get every single debt paid off, minus the car and the house in the year of 2012. I CAN DO THIS! No, wait..... WE can do this!!!! Gazelle Intensity Mode is setting in and HERE----WE----GO!!!!
As for the month of December, we were able to pay for Christmas, 100% in CASH. We were able to give to the local Angel Tree Ministry. We also gave a substantial amount to a local family in need that our church was helping. We also gave to another family that I love to give to because we just love them and everything that they do for us throughout the year. We still gave our monthly offering to the church, and we also paid off more debt!
Tuesday, January 3, 2012
"TRY HARDER"
I'm SICK and TIRED!
Sick and Tired of the "oh poor me" and "why didn't I get one?" and "let's make them all happy" and "we can't leave them out"
NO MORE! I had an interesting conversation yesterday discussing how we are sick and tired of just making everything a "paved way" for people in society. We always have to give "everyone a certificate" at the year end assembly so "they won't get their feelings hurt". Or give them 10 tries to get it right and get a sticker just like the person who got it right the first time. Or we can't give a zero because we want "Everyone to succeed".
What are we doing here? That's right- we are raising a bunch of babies for society and leading them to believe that nothing in life is hard and that you have to work for nothing!
It's amazing how when I was in school, it was a HUGE deal to get an A in your classes. My students today have no idea what an A, B, C, D, or F even is when it comes to a grading scale. It means absolutely NOTHING to them. I'm tired of that! I remember in high school, and you will laugh when you read this next part, but there was always a bulletin board sign up in the band hall that read "TRY HARDER!!!!" It's time for our society to start- TRYING HARDER.
I'm tired of giving in to everyone because "they might get their feelings hurt". But yet, we sit around and moan and groan about our world and how people act these days. Ummmm hello? Could this not be a possibility? Look at the world of employees. Nobody in this next generation WANTS to work for anything. They want to work when THEY want to work, take off whenever THEY want to take off, never work a weekend, and get the paycheck for it. They don't want to be told NO over anything, period. I feel like we are babying everyone nowadays and so when it comes time for the "real world" they still want to be babied.
I say....NO MORE! Used to, there were these awards given in school. Most improved- Citizenship-Top Scholar- A Honor Roll and AB Honor Roll.
Now- we get to give "Most Creative Student, Most Helpful Student, Best Writer, Best Storyteller, Best Artist, Most musical, Best personality, etc, etc"
Whatever! That's a joke, and you sitting here reading this know that I'm right! People tell me that I will feel differently when my kid is the one sitting in the audience not getting the award, but you know what? I don't think I will. I remember that I strived hard all throughout the year b/c I knew that AB honor roll certificate was given and how EMBARASSED I would feel if I didn't get atleast that one because then people would know that I made less than B's and that is not how I wanted to be portrayed. I remember my mom would always tell me "Suck it up, you got to try harder" She never said "Well you deserved it sweetheart, that teacher was wrong". The ONLY time she ever said that to me was when I truly didn't get a certain award my senior year that was mine.... but the teacher completely didn't give it to me out of SPITE and not by the handbook rules of who had the most points. To this day, I'm still ticked about it -- so don't ask! It's still touchy!
Ok- Off my soap box---for now!
Sick and Tired of the "oh poor me" and "why didn't I get one?" and "let's make them all happy" and "we can't leave them out"
NO MORE! I had an interesting conversation yesterday discussing how we are sick and tired of just making everything a "paved way" for people in society. We always have to give "everyone a certificate" at the year end assembly so "they won't get their feelings hurt". Or give them 10 tries to get it right and get a sticker just like the person who got it right the first time. Or we can't give a zero because we want "Everyone to succeed".
What are we doing here? That's right- we are raising a bunch of babies for society and leading them to believe that nothing in life is hard and that you have to work for nothing!
It's amazing how when I was in school, it was a HUGE deal to get an A in your classes. My students today have no idea what an A, B, C, D, or F even is when it comes to a grading scale. It means absolutely NOTHING to them. I'm tired of that! I remember in high school, and you will laugh when you read this next part, but there was always a bulletin board sign up in the band hall that read "TRY HARDER!!!!" It's time for our society to start- TRYING HARDER.
I'm tired of giving in to everyone because "they might get their feelings hurt". But yet, we sit around and moan and groan about our world and how people act these days. Ummmm hello? Could this not be a possibility? Look at the world of employees. Nobody in this next generation WANTS to work for anything. They want to work when THEY want to work, take off whenever THEY want to take off, never work a weekend, and get the paycheck for it. They don't want to be told NO over anything, period. I feel like we are babying everyone nowadays and so when it comes time for the "real world" they still want to be babied.
I say....NO MORE! Used to, there were these awards given in school. Most improved- Citizenship-Top Scholar- A Honor Roll and AB Honor Roll.
Now- we get to give "Most Creative Student, Most Helpful Student, Best Writer, Best Storyteller, Best Artist, Most musical, Best personality, etc, etc"
Whatever! That's a joke, and you sitting here reading this know that I'm right! People tell me that I will feel differently when my kid is the one sitting in the audience not getting the award, but you know what? I don't think I will. I remember that I strived hard all throughout the year b/c I knew that AB honor roll certificate was given and how EMBARASSED I would feel if I didn't get atleast that one because then people would know that I made less than B's and that is not how I wanted to be portrayed. I remember my mom would always tell me "Suck it up, you got to try harder" She never said "Well you deserved it sweetheart, that teacher was wrong". The ONLY time she ever said that to me was when I truly didn't get a certain award my senior year that was mine.... but the teacher completely didn't give it to me out of SPITE and not by the handbook rules of who had the most points. To this day, I'm still ticked about it -- so don't ask! It's still touchy!
Ok- Off my soap box---for now!
Monday, January 2, 2012
Happy New Years!
Well, I honestly, do not think that I have ever set a New Year's Resolution..... but I'm really going to try for 3 things this year.....
First and Foremost- become debt free minus the car and house! It's time to pop it into Gazelle mode and "get 'er done!"
Secondly- to become a better role model for my children and starting by cleaning my mouth out! I've had quite the potty mouth here lately and it's just not very classy!
Thirdly- to eat less sweets (I have a HUGE sweet tooth lately!)- wanting my clothes to feel comfortable again- not looking to slim down to a size 4-- just want my clothes to fit better. (I'll work on that size 4 thing when I'm finished having kids!-- Yes, despite the craziness- we still want a third-- just not immediately!)
New Years was very low-key for us as we were on the road, traveling to East Texas for Christmas. I actually got to bond with my 2nd oldest sister, whom I never get to spend time with, much less her husband and kids. We all stayed at the local hotel there in Sulphur Springs and we had the best time just laughing and cutting up! We had more fun playing with them, watching them be monkeys on the bed, and laughing at ourselves!
First and Foremost- become debt free minus the car and house! It's time to pop it into Gazelle mode and "get 'er done!"
Secondly- to become a better role model for my children and starting by cleaning my mouth out! I've had quite the potty mouth here lately and it's just not very classy!
Thirdly- to eat less sweets (I have a HUGE sweet tooth lately!)- wanting my clothes to feel comfortable again- not looking to slim down to a size 4-- just want my clothes to fit better. (I'll work on that size 4 thing when I'm finished having kids!-- Yes, despite the craziness- we still want a third-- just not immediately!)
New Years was very low-key for us as we were on the road, traveling to East Texas for Christmas. I actually got to bond with my 2nd oldest sister, whom I never get to spend time with, much less her husband and kids. We all stayed at the local hotel there in Sulphur Springs and we had the best time just laughing and cutting up! We had more fun playing with them, watching them be monkeys on the bed, and laughing at ourselves!
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